Things to Know Before Searching for An Accountability Partner

Don’t waste your time looking for an ‘accountability buddy’ unless you are willing to pull your own weight in the relationship.


Are you on the hunt for an ‘accountability buddy’ to help you stay on track as you write? Read this before you go looking.

You won’t have a hard time finding one

Really. Post in any writing group on social media or writer’s forum and you will find people who feel they need accountability from someone else in order to get writing done. If you are really set on finding someone to hold you accountable, don’t be hesitant to reach out.

However, the ‘relationship’ probably won’t work out

Why? Because everyone wants someone to ‘be there’ for them, to push and challenge them … but most are not willing to do the same in return. That’s just generally how accountability works. This is why relying on someone else to get writing done isn’t the best route to go down. Your accountability partner has their own writing projects to work on, plus their own professional and personal lives to attend to. More often than not, you’ll have an accountability partner who says they’ll be there for you … but really means they will agree to support you, once all their personal matters are taken care of, and as long as you agree to support them first. As you can imagine, this doesn’t really work out in either side’s favor.

You’re much better off holding yourself accountable for meeting your own writing goals

Don’t waste your time looking for an ‘accountability buddy’ unless you are willing to pull your own weight in the relationship. Overall, you are much better off spending that time figuring out how to keep yourself motivated and on track, instead of searching for someone who is going to do it for you. At least in the beginning. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t have one or that you’re doing something wrong if you do look for one. It’s always best to have a backup, though, whether your backup is your accountability partner or yourself.

Consider forming a mastermind group with a few fellow writers

This is something a little bit more formal, but potentially much more effective, than having one fellow writer as an accountability partner. Generally a mastermind group meets, either in personal or virtually, only at certain intervals throughout the year. Whatever you and your group mates decide to discuss during those meetings is up to you. The idea behind a mastermind group is to have a few fellow professionals there to help you find solutions to problems and become more efficient at what you do. You all agree to support each other, without having to make daily, weekly or even monthly commitments to helping another person out.

Do you have an accountability partner as a writer? What would you look for in an accountability partner, if you were to search for one? Like the idea, or not so sure it’s worth it? Share your thoughts in the comments … then get back to writing!

Meg is the creator of Novelty Revisions, dedicated to helping writers put their ideas into words. She is a freelance writer and an eight-time NaNoWriMo winner with work published in Teen Ink, Success Story, Lifehack and USA TODAY College. Follow Meg on Twitter for tweets about writing, food and nerdy things.

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