I am someone who has always struggled with loneliness. For the most part, I have come to terms with and accepted the fact that other people are very rarely on the same schedule and in the same mindset as you. To me, it often feels like people can only talk and hang out when I’m in the middle of doing something, and when I’m completely free, no one else is.
I work from home and pretty much all my friends now live in different cities and/or states. Honestly, there are still very quiet and lonely days. It isn’t that I mind being single (eh…) or living in a small town no one has ever heard of. I am human, though. We’re not supposed to be alone for long periods of time.
But that’s just the way life is, at least for me. So how do I cope? By writing.
I talk about writing as a channel for healing quite often simply because I believe in and have taken advantage of its power that way. I believe, while many of you out there are writers, every single one of you has a different purpose for writing. Some do it to escape the goings-on in your life. Some do it because it calms you down. Some do it because you admire other people who do, and writing like they write makes you feel alive and hopeful. None of these or any other reasons are wrong. They’re just different for everyone, depending on the general course of your life.
Characters. Ideas. Faraway places and events that may or may never happen. It all makes us feel whole, even when we aren’t. We can imagine whatever we want to imagine; there are no boundaries. When we’re alone, we can write about characters who have more relationships than they know what to do with. When we are sad, we can write about someone who is happy. And on, and on, and on.
Writing is more than just storytelling. It’s keeping you moving forward, whether you realize it or not.
Sometimes, we need to write to feel less alone. Perhaps I am the only one, or perhaps there is an entire group of people just like me out there somewhere. I can’t say for sure.
What I do know is, writing can be many different things for many different people. Lately, it has kept me happy and occupied despite not having very many people to talk to, and I’m fine with that. At different points in my life, writing means different things. I know this is just what I need writing for right now. This will pass. Life will improve, as it always does, and the purpose of writing in my life will change again. For the better.
Meg is the creator of Novelty Revisions, dedicated to helping writers put their ideas into words. She is a freelance writer and an eight-time NaNoWriMo winner with work published in Teen Ink, Success Story, Lifehack and USA TODAY College. Follow Meg on Twitter for tweets about writing, food and nerdy things.
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