How Writing a Novel Is Like Being in a Relationship

It’s a roller coaster.


At first, everything is new and warm and fuzzy and everything is right with the world.

Then you remember you can’t dedicate ALL your time to your novel … because you have, you know, responsibilities. And you need some ‘you’ time, away from your novel. Not because you don’t want to spend time with it anymore. You just … can’t.

You start to realize your novel isn’t perfect. And while that’s fine, some days, it really gets on your nerves. You start to lose your patience.

Your first fight. It’s frustrating and confusing. Why won’t your novel just LISTEN to you? You know exactly what you want. Why can’t the two of you compromise?

Every now and then you realize you’re at fault, too. It’s not all about you and what you want. It’s about doing what is best for the story, for the characters, for the readers who might pick it up someday.

You apologize. Everything is okay again. Most of the time.

There are plenty of ups and downs. Some nights you just want to watch Netflix for six hours instead of typing even a single word. Sometimes you make the sacrifice. Other times you don’t.

It is an unpredictable, sometimes dizzying roller coaster. It will always be that way.

But in the end, it’s all worth it. Your life would be completely different without your novel. Empty. A little sadder. It’s not perfect, some days you’d rather not look at it at all. But you don’t give up. You can’t. Having it in your life just makes you whole.

Meg is the creator of Novelty Revisions, dedicated to helping writers put their ideas into words. She is a freelance writer and an eight-time NaNoWriMo winner with work published in Teen Ink, Success Story, Lifehack and USA TODAY College. Follow Meg on Twitter for tweets about writing, food and nerdy things.

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